George: Another reposting, with permission, of one of the greatest University of Man posts. Enjoy.
May 28, 2012 at 11:00 PM A gift to you from Professor Mentu
This is Shame the Beta Month at UMan, and I promised a reader in the comments section of an earlier post that I would write about game for Christian men. I was going to call this post “Game for Christian Betas”, but ever since Catholics and Evangelicals skewed the consequences-to-forgiveness ratio in favor of women by shifting blame to men, the term “Christian Beta” has become kind of redundant.
A major problem with Christianity today is that Pastors spend too much time warning young men about the consequences of the world pulling them away from the church, and not enough time warning young men about the consequences of the church pulling them away from the world.
Render unto Caesar the things that are Caesar’s, and unto God the things that are God’s. Some things belong in your spiritual life, and some things belong in your physical life. Some relationship decisions should be made according to the laws of God, and some relationship decisions should be made according to the laws of man. This is not an all or nothing process. Just as 31% of a dollar earned belongs to Uncle Sam and 10% of that same dollar belongs to God through the tithe, a certain percentage of your interaction with a woman has spiritual consequences, and a certain percentage of your interaction with that same woman has real-world consequences.
How do you know which is which? How does a young Christian man determine when he should make a relationship decision based on the world in which he lives, or the principles of the God whom he serves, or a blend of both?
Always make your decision in the realm which delivers the primary consequences or rewards of that decision.
When a Christian man meets a Christian girl, he is trained to automatically make 100% of his decisions in the spiritual realm and be nice to her.
What are the spiritual rewards of being too nice to her? Nothing.
What are the spiritual consequences? Nothing.
What are the worldly rewards for being too nice to her? Nothing.
What are the worldly consequences of being too nice to her? She’ll think you’re a wuss, and you won’t get a date.
Score one for game. Here the answer is clear: running a little aloof game does not have spiritual consequences or rewards, so make your decision in the worldly realm.
That example was simple. Let’s complicate it a little.
When a Christian man meets a large group Christian girls, he is trained to automatically make 100% of his decisions in the spiritual realm and seek “the one”.
What are the spiritual rewards of honing in on only one girl and not gaming the rest? Nothing.
What are the spiritual consequences? You’re limiting yourself by not being open to the possibility that God’s will for you may be to meet a woman other than the one you just happened to strike up a conversation with.
What are the worldly rewards for honing in on only one girl and not gaming the rest? Nothing.
What are the worldly consequences? You’re limiting yourself.
Score another point for game. Here again the answer is clear: There are no spiritual consequences for being able to attract and hold the attention of a number of women, but there are spiritual rewards. There are also no worldly consequences, but the worldly rewards are self-evident.
Ok, let’s kick it up another notch.
When a Christian man meets a Christian girl he wants to sleep with, he is trained to automatically make 100% of his decisions in the spiritual realm and ignore his urges.
What are the spiritual rewards of sleeping with a girl? Nothing.
What are the spiritual consequences? You are in violation of God’s law on premarital intercourse. Well, unless you justify your actions by saying sex outside of marriage is ok as long as it’s not sex outside of love (or whatever end-run play you Christian kids are running to justify premarital sex these days). If that’s the case, why stop there?
What are the worldly rewards of sleeping with a girl? It satisfies a natural urge, and gives you something to blog about.
What are the worldly consequences? Exposure to STDs and/or an unwanted pregnancy.
Score another point for game. How so? Game isn’t about sex tips, it’s about getting you to a place where women find you attractive. If you get to the point where you have to make this decision on a regular basis with multiple women, you sir, have game even when you choose to honor your Christian principles and not sleep with her.
But here again the answer is simple: If you are a true believer, breaking God’s law is never an option, so the reward of making your decision in the spiritual realm far outweighs a few moments of pleasure gained by making your decision in the worldly realm. You also avoid the consequences of the worldly realm.
[Side note: The conclusions drawn in the examples above are my own. You may, and most definitely should, draw your own conclusions. I'm simply offering a decision map.]
Uh oh, there’s a flaw in my system here. Silly me, I’ve been assuming the Christian girl you’ve met is as dedicated to the teachings of Christ as you are. There’s a slight chance you may run in to a Christian girl or two along the way who repeatedly plays her “get out of hell free” card on her long and winding road to perpetual redemption.
I guess that leaves you in a pretty tight spot there, huh? What philosophy, what tactics, and what method of operation could give you an edge in determining if the girl you’re crushing on is as committed to the biblical definition of marriage as you are?
That’s right. Score one for game again!
The easiest way to ensure you’re not about to get engaged to a woman who wears her spirituality like a party dress – on when it’s time to look good, off and at the foot of some guy’s bed when it’s time for a little fun – is to put aside the Gospill for a moment and take a good dose of the Red Pill.
The decision to marry for the sake of Holy Matrimony itself should be made in the spiritual realm since the rewards are primarily spiritual (commitment, being the High Priest of a home, being fruitful and multiplying, etc.) There are no spiritual consequences for not marrying as evidenced by Jesus, Paul, and others. But the decision on who to marry should be made in the worldly realm because the worldly rewards are the same as the spiritual rewards, but the consequences (divorce, alimony, child support, etc.) for marrying the wrong woman are severe and are delivered primarily in the worldly realm.
Before you decide to propose to your girlfriend, pop a Red Pill, look her straight in the eye and say this:
“Marriage is a commitment that I take seriously, and I expect my wife to take it seriously too. I am the spiritual leader and protector of this home, and I am willing to give my life for it. I expect a wife to submit to my leadership even when she disagrees with my decision, because I and I alone will be held accountable by God Almighty for the successes and failures of this household. As a wife, I will need your unending support, your sound advice, physical and emotional companionship, and your steadfast commitment; but I will never need your leadership. In return, I offer provisions, love, faithfulness and eternal commitment to you and our future children.”
Now I’ll assume that 99.9% of Christian men would never say this to a woman, since we all know that Betty Bible would make her decision in the worldly realm of feminism and be out the door faster than all Hell if she knew she was expected to follow clearly defined biblical principle in her marriage. Unlike countless generations of women before her, today’s Christian woman needs a little wiggle room in order to be happy.
For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; and they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.
But that’s ok, my friend. You really, really want to get married, so go ahead and make excuses for her. I’m sure that she’s a plenty fine Christian and it’ll all work out even though she’s not even remotely committed to a Christian marriage.
Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
Are you sure you’re even a committed to a Christian marriage yourself? If you Alpha game your way all the way to a proposal but pussy out when it comes time to set biblical expectations for your union, I doubt your sincerity.
Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For ye are like unto whited sepulchers, which indeed appear beautiful outward, but are within full of dead men’s bones, and of all uncleanness.
All the Sunday School stories and promises of heavenly reward won’t make you feel a bit better when you’re saddled with kids, debt, an unhappy woman, a pending divorce, and a feminized Pastor who takes her side and tells you to “pray about it.”
Watch your back and stay on top of your game, choir boy.