Manosphere: Extreme Feminism (Part 2)

1. A reader sent me this one about a woman who is writing her doctoral thesis on ‘What I’ve Learnt from Rom-coms’ (yes seriously):

From watching a lot of these movies, I knew that if I wanted my happy ending, there were a few things I would have to do. So, here’s some wisdom, gleaned from watching many a rom-com, for a woman who wants to recover from heartbreak and find true love.

BE SKINNY, PRETTY AND RICH – Romantic comedies are aspirational and they’re escapist. So naturally, rom-com heroines are usually financially set and live in unrealistically large, well-decorated apartments. They’re all slender (and when they’re not, they’re Bridget Jones, “fat” at size 12). They’re almost always white, and they’re always straight. Better hope you’re not average-looking, poor, a racial minority or a lesbian; no one is ever going to fall in love with you.

George: The first two will help, a lot. Guys are primarily attracted by looks. I would apologise, but it’s a fact of life.

BE A CORPORATE BITCH … OR A CUPCAKE-BAKING BABE - There are two kinds of jobs women can have in romantic comedies. There are your high-powered corporate roles, which require suits, Louboutins, and making life hell for your colleagues. These jobs indicate that the heroine is about to be taken down a peg by a commanding man whom she will soon come to love. Then there are your nice-girl jobs – caterer, party-planner, teacher – which indicate that a woman is a hopeless romantic about to melt the cold exterior of a loveless man. Either way, women in romantic comedies spend very little time thinking about, let alone doing, work.

George: Be the second. Not a femi-nazi. Remember, the feminine attracts the masculine. Acting out the first is likely scaring men off.

BE LESS FEMINIST – In the past few years, Hollywood has given us a dozen movies about highly strung career women struggling to have it all. Feminism has only made them miserable, and it’ll do the same for you, so don’t worry your pretty little head about it.

George: This one is true. Be prepared to put your career on hold to marry a great man and raise his children. But only if you actually want to find a man. Which is really the whole point of this article and why you’re here.

FIND A JERK, FALL IN LOVE WITH HIM – If romantic comedies have taught me anything, it’s that you’re destined to fall in love with someone you hate. The dude at work who is a complete misogynist? Secretly the man of your dreams. That guy whose big chain shop is threatening to put you out of business? Secretly the man of your dreams… This one is age-old wisdom: sure, he’s a dickhead, but that’s just because he’s never been loved by the right woman – you!

George: This one is BAD. Realise you’re never going to be able to hold down the alpha. Stop chasing after him. Dalrock has some great advice here.

2. As a total counterpoint to all of the above, I love what Inside a Woman’s Mind has to say about men and women’s natural roles:

It’s no lie that men and women are built differently. Physically and mentally. Genetically we’re designed to be good at different things. I’m not saying men can’t be great cooks or women strong, but cooking makes me happy. Cooking for my man makes me even more happy. I don’t give a shit this is 2013 and not 1950. I’ll still adore putting on an apron and cooking for my man. Feminism is a mystery to me. I don’t get it. I just don’t understand the kind of women, that’ll go;

‘There’s no f*cking way I’ll cook every night, HE has to cook too! You really do it –every- night?! *insert horrified expression topped with a slight pout*’, or ‘Wow, you can’t put oil on your car, Inside? What is this, the 1950’s?’

I don’t see the loss of my independence as a human being or wavering the right to equal pay, by feeding my family homecooked meals. The only thing –I- see, when I hear a woman say ‘He has to do it TOO, I’m not his –maid-!!’ is a big, fat, ridiculous protest by an insecure woman who hangs her identity on being a feminist, finding some strength in that label. I honestly believe women encouraging feminism nowadays comes from a point of massive insecurity and generally feeling intimidated by men. It’s 2013, for crying out loud. Could someone take the feminists by the hand, and follow them into the 21st century, to join the rest of us?

‘What do you want for dinner, darling?’ I’ll proudly ask my man. –Especially- in front of said feminists. It’s not like I’ll bow my head and go ‘Yes, Master’ (outside of the bedroom, anyway…)

3. The now defunct blogger CL had some good analysis on an anti-game article. The article is in italics, her comments are in normal font:

And when you’re telling an awkward, nerdy guy who has no idea how to flirt “OK, now, touch a girl here,” it’s almost always creepy. (Personally, I don’t like random guys at bars touching me. It makes me really uncomfortable.)

So on the one hand, she doesn’t want icky nerds touching her, but on the other, she’s not very touchy feely anyway (or so she claims, but let’s take her at her word), so really we have an uptight prude here whom you would be better off without, Game or not.

Some of my friends who were involved in the community got out of it OK, but they were probably more normally adjusted to start with. Another friend, well, he got his taste of one night stands and “can’t understand the point of girlfriend.” And other guys I’ve met are so uncomfortable to be around that, well, we never really became friends.

She sure seems to be uncomfortable around men – even non-threatening nerds – but what she really doesn’t like is a nerdy guy who probably would have otherwise been incel out getting laid without having to extend the commitment end of the bargain (because women give away their end(!) for free). What she would prefer is that she is able to ride the carousel for a while and have those nerds still frustrated ten years later, so that they fall at her feet when she is ready to ‘settle’ with a beta provider. Having been starved for so long, even a bit of mouldy leftovers will seem like a feast.

If he’s out getting laid basically for free now, why would he settle for her when she’s about to hit the wall? This scares the crap out of her and she doesn’t even know it. When that same nerd who she finds “creepy” now is in his 30s-40s or even 50s, without Game he might settle for her, but with it he may pull in someone younger and less used up. This must be stopped!

4. Suzanne Venker sends key concepts I’ve been writing about mainstream, writing about what she calls the War on Men. She provides advice for both sexes:

Believe it or not, modern women want to get married. Trouble is, men don’t… I’ve accidentally stumbled upon a subculture of men who’ve told me, in no uncertain terms, that they’re never getting married. When I ask them why, the answer is always the same.

Women aren’t women anymore.

To say gender relations have changed dramatically is an understatement. Ever since the sexual revolution, there has been a profound overhaul in the way men and women interact. Men haven’t changed much – they had no revolution that demanded it – but women have changed dramatically.

In a nutshell, women are angry. They’re also defensive, though often unknowingly. That’s because they’ve been raised to think of men as the enemy. Armed with this new attitude, women pushed men off their pedestal (women had their own pedestal, but feminists convinced them otherwise) and climbed up to take what they were taught to believe was rightfully theirs.

Now the men have nowhere to go… So if men today are slackers, and if they’re retreating from marriage en masse, women should look in the mirror and ask themselves what role they’ve played to bring about this transformation.

Fortunately, there is good news: women have the power to turn everything around. All they have to do is surrender to their nature – their femininity – and let men surrender to theirs. If they do, marriageable men will come out of the woodwork.