The Thought Process of Horny Men... or... Why Guys Shut Down Post-Bang

When men are horny, it can overrule many other desires, drives, and things they know they should be doing. In this state, it takes strong beliefs, commitments and social mores to prevent them from acting on those impulses when it becomes possible to take care of this.

Obviously I’m talking about with a consenting woman. As always, ANY forcing or taking advantage of a woman is disgusting and should be met with harsh punishments. Adultery is also terrible, as I will be talking about shortly. What I’m talking about in this post is a consenting interaction between a man and a woman, and why women shouldn’t just put out when a guy shows interest.

When men are horny it becomes a high priority to satiate this. In turn, he can ignore other things, such as hurting a girl’s feelings when he knows she likes him, which are really more important in the mid to long term.

As a friend of mine who has been married for 10 years and has no idea about game recently said to me:

“When you’re in pursuit you’re ruled by your dick rather than your head. And once it’s over, your head kicks back in.”

The writer of Slumdog Millionaire captures this thought process well. Note the shift in  thought process pre and post orgasm:

She snaps open her blouse in one motion… My mouth goes dry. My breathing becomes shallow. My heart starts hammering against my ribs… She laughs. ‘You men are all the same. One look at a woman’s tits and all your morals go out of the window. Come.’ She pulls me into her and I experience a moment of pure, unadulterated rapture. An electric current darts through my body which thrills rather than shocks. I shiver with pleasure.

Afterwards, when we are lying side beside under the rickety ceiling fan and I have also contributed a stain to the dirty bed sheet… I realise then that the moment has indeed passed. The magic has gone, and now that I am no longer blinded by my desire, I see the room in its true colours. I see an antiquated cassette player on a side table, connected to the mains by an ugly black cord. I see the mouldy walls with peeling paint. I see the torn and faded red curtain at the window. I see the stains on the sheet and the tears on the mattress. I feel a slight itching sensation, probably from the mites infesting the bed. I sniff the decaying, musty smell of the room. Everything now seems sordid and sleazy. Lying in the soiled bed, I feel polluted and unclean. I, to, get up and hastily gather my clothes.

Note the phrase “blinded by my desire”. I’ve been guilty of this, as I wrote in point 4 of Some Unpleasantness. When I was in a normal state, I purposely didn’t see that girl, who I knew wanted a relationship with me. When I was horny, I knew she was there and would hook up and so I called her up. I’m not proud of it. I shouldn’t have done it. It was my mistake.

When a man knows a woman will put out, he will too often go there. Even if he logically knows that he has no interest in her and that this will hurt her feelings when he doesn’t contact her again.

When I’ve been with girlfriends in the past I didn’t take seriously because they put out quickly, I have quickly gone looking for more women, leveraging off the action I already have. However, when I start dating a girl I can see long term potential with, I am completely focused and not interested in other women.

So what should women do to ensure guys stay with them longer term?

First and foremost, not put out!! At least until you are a long way into an exclusively committed relationship, or better yet, married. Keep the buildup of sexual tension happening. Guys will think there is something magical about you, and will stick around for a long time chasing that.

The concept of trump cards works well here. If a man is horny, it will trump him avoiding a girl he know likes him. However, if a man is in a serious relationship, this should trump being horny and having easy access to a woman in front of him. What makes this a vastly stronger trump card is when he is married (See point 2 here).

Marriage provides countless reason NOT to cheat. The husband has made vows and promises to his wife, promising to love, honour and obey, forsaking all others as long as they both shall live. Having children further increases the importance of remaining faithful to his childrens’ mother, due to the devastating impact that spousal breakdowns have on their children.

I’ll leave Ride With Blaze to have the last word, talking about dick betrayal: Got on PlentyOfFish after coming back from the bars one night and stumbled across the profile of a chick I messaged a long time ago, but broke it off because she lived like a slob (worse than me, at times) and had minimal experience sexually and was too afraid to give a blow job. Well, we fucked a long time ago and it wasn’t anything special, so I wrote her off. Told her that would be the end of it and I went on my way. It was an amicable ending. 

Why would my dick want anything to do with her nearly five months after it all? If you guessed to betray me and teach my drunk ass a new lesson, you nailed it…  I implore you all. Please, snuff out dick betrayal. Don’t make a mistake that feels great, but then you’ll be stuck in a situation you don’t want to be in again.