Right now you are in your physical prime. All humans start to degrade after 25, but for women it’s more dramatic since us guys mostly care about looks. We are more shallow than you can possibly imagine. Therefore if you want to get married, you should start thinking about it when you’re 24. It takes a couple years to find a guy and then a couple years more to make sure he’s the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.
It’s okay if you don’t want to get married, but if you do, don’t wait until you’re 30. By then it will be too late because you’ll have to compete with younger girls who are still in their prime, and it won’t matter how smart you are if you’re not as pretty as them. After 30 you’ll be forced to settle with a man you wouldn’t even have considered just a couple years prior. And that’s if you’re lucky.
I am getting older while all the girls are getting younger. Men date 22 year olds no matter how old they are, while women tend to date within their own age group or older. I am now in the same dating pool as my cousin. I was eight years old when she was born. I watched her get her diaper changed and now we are fighting for the same guys. Everyday, I look older, they look younger…
I cannot stop my biological clock. I cannot make my eggs stay young. I do not have time to wait for mister right. Every year I pack on more emotional baggage. While getting older does mean knowing more about life and the world etc., maybe I liked being a little naïve. Because bad things DO happen! To good people. As you age you gain wisdom but you also gain awareness that shit happens, it happens to you and you become jaded (you can’t tell me any failed relationships haven’t affected the way you approach love and relationships now).
George: I love this girl’s attitude, honesty and everything she brings to the table.
There will come a point when a woman’s conditions will make her more dependent on a man’s intrinsic qualities. His empathy, love, loyalty and compassion makes a world of difference once she’s past the Wall. As her ability to remain a sexual competitor diminishes, her dependency on her husband’s emotional and security provisioning takes precedence. This may even be a genuine appreciation for a woman, but it’s important to understand that this new appreciation is the result of her opportunistic understanding of love. At some point she will need to love these intrinsic qualities.
George: But even then, many women don’t… especially when they divorce their husband and look further afield, only to find their SMV has bottomed out.
OPRAH Winfrey called them light bulb moments – those times in life when you come to a great realisation. My latest light bulb moment came courtesy of Santa Claus – and my mother. While running through the family gift list with Mum last week, she uttered what can only be described as the most embarrassing question I’ve ever been asked: “Did you ask Santa for a boyfriend for Christmas?” After recovering from the shock, I had to admit she had a point…
OK, so I’ve made some mistakes in the dating scene. Actually, I’m downright crap at dating.
I’m opinionated, outspoken and at times emotionally cruel to men – all very bad qualities for husband hunting apparently – but worst of all I’ve been chickenshit for too long and failed to go after the guys that I’ve actually fancied.
I’ve always sat back and waited for the dude to approach me – then judged him on his appearance, choice of drink and pick-up line.
George: The ‘apparently’ indicates she still hasn’t come to grips with exactly what she was doing wrong. It’s good to see though that her pride has finally shattered and brought her low. At least she’s honest enough to admit that she was being overly harsh in judging. I bet there was a lot of good, decent men over the years who were interested in her over the years but who she smashed away.