There is a lot of debate in the Manosphere about whether men should get married or not. I’m a conservative traditionalist in this regard. I completely believe in marriage between one man and one woman. There’s no better way to raise children. The studies and statistics prove that. From what I’ve personally seen, there’s also no better way to experience a full measure of joy in life and pass on a lasting legacy.
This post will address the best of what the Manosphere has to say on marriage and age. Future posts will discuss other aspects of marriage.
1. Victor Pride asserts that: The best time for a man to get married is after 30 years of age. At that age he has had a long time to live life, earn money, think of what he wants in a wife, and settle down a little bit. The ages of 20-30 are the wild years but after the 30 year mark men will tend to settle down. Most men under 30 years of age aren’t mature enough to make the best decision about who to spend their life with…
The woman should 30 years of age MAXIMUM. 25 is even better and 20 is the best age. A woman’s body does not age well. You want the most amount of years with your wife having a tight, young, firm body. After 30 it goes downhill fast. At around the age of 31 a woman’s beauty really declines fast.
George: I think it’s more than this. I’ve found that by 30, most unmarried women have a lot of baggage. Psycho ex-partners, deep-seated emotional issues, abortions, set in their ways etc. I think that a girl in her early twenties is the best age.
2. Dalrock explains that: a loving wife who spent her youth with her husband and remains faithful and committed is in a very special position. To me my wife is just as beautiful at 37 as the day I married her when she was only 20. I would try to explain this, but I really don’t have the words. I’ll wager that most married men here will understand this, and maybe even some of the unmarried ones as well… I’ll also bet most women will struggle to truly accept it…
For young women who wish to marry my advice would be to take your search for your future husband seriously now. Don’t waste your youth with men who won’t care about you but for a moment, even if that moment extends for several years. Just as important, don’t conduct yourself in such a way that will skew your ability to experience attraction for men to those with excessive alpha qualities… Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth –Proverbs 5:18
3. A classic Craigs List post: What am I doing wrong? Okay, I’m tired of beating around the bush. I’m a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I’m articulate and classy. I’m not from New York. I’m looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don’t think I’m overreaching at all. Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips?
The reply from an Investment Banker is gold.
4. Dalrock writes that: As a collective today’s unmarried twenty something women have made men an ultimatum: I’ll marry when I’m ready, take it or leave it. This is of course their right. But ultimatums are a risky thing, because there is always a possibility the other side will decide to leave it. In the next decade we will witness the end result of this game of marriage chicken.
5. Dalrock says that: women aren’t just delaying marriage; they are collectively weakening the signal which in past generations has told men to prepare for marriage both mentally and professionally… The specific peer group a man is in will make a big difference here, but overall large numbers of men are receiving much weaker signals indicating that they should begin preparing for marriage. The problem here for those women hoping to only delay marriage is there is generally a limited window for young men if they are going to become candidates for marriage. A man who spent his 20s coasting instead of developing his professional skills can’t immediately make up for that lost time, even if he wants to.
6. Solomon recounts a story where a 72 year old Irishman from Philly tells him: A good woman ages beautifully. When I look at my wife, I see the most gorgeous woman in the universe. Her wrinkled hands got that way by keeping up with my two boys and working hard for them while I was on the road. The lines under her eyes are from years of shedding tears for me when I was at war, and those wrinkles on her brow are from decades of worry for me and my two sons. It was her legs they held on to when they were learning to walk, her lap was where they learned to read, and her breasts were their first nourishment. The first kiss those boys ever received was from her lips, and God willing, my last kiss will be from her lips. You two don’t know what you’re missing – or maybe you do. But all I know is that she’s as beautiful, desirable, and lovely today as the day I met her, and I wouldn’t trade one second with her for a lifetime of rowdiness with one of those harlots you guys have waiting for you back home.
7. Dalrock writes a humorous, sad and sarcastic post: …the optimal path for women to marriage. Few dare to discusses something this sacred, but everyone knows this is what must be done for the good of society. Women need to sample a series of men in mini marriages otherwise called Long Term Relationships. In these mini marriages she practices the skill of falling in and out of love and experiencing sex and a romantic relationship with a series of men. Once she has sampled enough men, her heart will tell her when she is with the man she needs to marry. There is much mystery in how her heart accomplishes this, and only she and God can know. Her heart is always right, so if she marries a man whom she later finds she can’t remain married to this is proof that she was somehow tricked by the man. Her heart is the expert, and we need to ensure that she can follow it.